When my boys first came they were awesome at going to sleep. They were out of their brains exhausted so put them in a dark room and hold them still for five seconds and they were out like a light.
Now that they are well rested it is not such an easy story… take today/tonight for example
5.40am Champ wakes up wailing in his bed. I get up and bring him into my bed. His brother is already there.
5:50am Champ starts wiggling and waking his brother. I set him up in the lounge room with Fireman Sam, go back to bed.
6:05am He’s back, on the bed jumping on his brother.
6:10am We’re up.
10am Driving from the shops to the park, Buddy falls asleep. It is not Buddy’s nap time. Buddy should not be asleep. Get Buddy out of the car. Buddy still asleep. Buddy sleeps while I carry him, for 45 minutes. My children, once napping, do not wake.
12:30 pm It is now Champ and Buddy’s nap time. Champ goes down easily. Buddy is not tired, will not nap. I gets no time to myself and my uni assignments languish unfinished.
2:30 pm Singing and dancing in Champ’s room trying to wake him up. Takes fifteen minutes to get him to open his eyes and sit up. My children, once napping, do not wake
4:30pm Buddy is deliriously tired from having a short, early nap but is not allowed to sleep because it is only two and a half hours until his bed time.
6:30pm Take Buddy to bed. Buddy falls asleep in about 10 minutes. Quick. I’m hopeful that this might be an everyone asleep before eight kind of evening…
7:00pm Time for Champ to go to bed. Last half hour has been lovely wind down time, reading books, quality one-on-one time.
7:15pm Champ is in bed, doing what he should be doing. I ask if he want’s me to stay or go. He chooses go.
7:16pm The noises are getting louder from the room…
7:17pm Stick my head in whisper “Champ, quiet noises please, don’t wake your brother”
7:18pm Noises get louder…
7:19pm I move Buddy (asleep) into my room to try to protect him from the screaming tantrum I see building…
7:20pm Screaming tantrum commences…
7:23pm Moving Buddy did not protect him from the screams. Two screaming children now. Buddy, if woken within an hour of going to sleep, takes about 2 hours to settle again. I kid you not.
7:30pm Still two screaming children.
7:45pm No longer screaming, just desperate sobbing from both…
7:46pm Buddy is in the Ergo (baby carrier), I’m rubbing Champ’s back.
8:00pm Buddy half asleep, still with silent sobs. Champ has finally calmed down.
8:01pm I ask Champ if he would like me to stay or go. He says stay.
8:20pm Champ is finally asleep.
8:21pm Take a still upset Buddy (he really does not like to be woken up, I’m wondering if there is some trauma response in there) into my room, he is usually calmer in there, and will sleep even if I’m not there.
8:30pm I sneek out of my room, Buddy is asleep.
8:31pm No, he wasn’t…
8:35pm Buddy is lying on the couch next to me, fitfully sleeping. I’m trying to do some work.
9:30pm Buddy is finally in a proper deep sleep, I move him back to his bed.
9:31pm I can finally start my uni assignments… I’m tired now.
And this is what I can almost guarantee will happen tonight…
10:30pm Champ wakes from nightmare. Takes 10 minutes of cuddles to get back to sleep.
12:30am Buddy wakes. Will not sleep in his cot. Will not even be put down without hysterical screams. Comes into my bed.
5:40am Champ wakes…