Well Christmas is over for another year. It was fun and fairly low key, with no more disregulation from the boys than I might normally see. I made the decision not to travel the 13 hours or so to see my family and instead stayed at home and had a Christmas dinner with several of my close friends who had also made the same decision. The boys got lots of presents, lovely appropriate ones from their bios, and lots of generosity from my family too (so much so that when I said we were going to talk to Nanny tonight on Skype, Champ immediately asked “presents?”).
As a present to myself I thought it would be helpful to list the ‘gifts’ that the kids have given me over the last two months:
– Champ almost never swears any more
– Buddy doesn’t bite or pinch any more.
– Both boys will come to me for resolution of a dispute rather than trying to hurt the other
– I can often leave the bedroom at night with Champ still awake and he will stay in bed (!!!) and fall asleep.
– Both boys sleep the whole night in their own beds and mostly go back to sleep easily if they wake in the night.
– Champ now understands the concept of waiting and can cope with the idea that something will happen later not right now (mostly…)
– Champ is toilet trained (yay!).
– I can tell Champ ‘no’ and he will often accept it without an epic meltdown.
– Both boys happily drink water and no longer ask for cordial, juice or chocolate milk.
– I can give the boys the occasional treat of a lolly or chocolate and it doesn’t cause meltdowns.
– I can even get them to eat vegetables.
– Champ is, slowly, starting to become better at coming when I ask him to, not running away.
– I can spend the whole day at home with them without banging my head against a wall…(so long as it’s not everyday!)
– Champ can eat without covering his clothes in food. Buddy… well, we’ll get there.
– They have both become much, much better at calm playing (as opposed to active playing, such as riding bikes or kicking balls, which they are great at). There is still a long way to go, but they are really getting there.
– Champ’s memory for new words is beginning to improve and he is slowly learning to count.
– Buddy’s language is taking off. The other morning when I was still in bed he appeared in my doorway and demanded “Mummy! Brepbast (Breakfast)!”
There are many more things that they have achieved that would take forever to list. I spend so much time focusing on the areas that need improvement (of which of course there are still many) that I often forget to take a step back and see the bigger picture. They are doing well. To the outsider they seem like normal, if slightly active, kids. It’s good. And I love them.